Regular Exercise Can Help Us Be Better Dads
Part 1 of a Series on Stephen Covey, Personal Renewal and Fatherhood
Many busy dads can’t find the time to exercise. But we need to make the time to take care of our bodies, so we can be better, more effective fathers. As Stephen Covey says, we need to do the important, not just the urgent!
Exercise and fatherhood all in one!
Like you, I spend a lot of time at work, and while at home, I tend to put my family’s needs first. But it would be better- for everyone- if we took some time to focus on replenishing ourselves.
The Important vs. The Urgent
Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is the most useful book I ever read. In it, Covey writes about spending a few hours every week on personal renewal, what he calls “sharpening the saw.”
Sometimes we’re so busy with what’s urgent that we fail to take the time to do the important things. Covey suggests that we schedule in some time every week in these four areas:
In this series of articles, I’ll discuss each of these dimensions and discuss ways we (myself VERY much included) can better incorporate some time for each of these into our weekly schedules. By doing so, we can become better at the most important roles in our lives- provider, husband, father.
Part 1. Physical Renewal
As Covey writes:
Most of us think we don’t have enough time to exercise. What a distorted paradigm! We don’t have time not to. We’re talking about… thirty minutes a day, every other day. That hardly seems an inordinate amount of time considering the tremendous benefits in terms of impact on the other 165 hours of the week.
In a humor piece at the Good Men Project, I wrote that exercising in my twenties “meant 3 days a week at the gym, plus racquetball, volleyball and pick-up hoops,” and now that I’m 40, it “means parking at the far end of my work’s parking lot and making sure to use the stairs instead of the elevator.”
Sadly, sometimes this is true. There are too many days that my pulse rate does not go above rest. I will go a week or two using the elliptical and rowing machines in my basement after Nick is in bed. After a while, though, being done with the day means a glass of wine, TV, facebook and/or a compulsive 19th edit of my next blog piece. Sadly, my exercise equipment is currently gathering dust and laundry.
I do better when exercise is scheduled in. That’s why, I am so committed to my volleyball leagues, even when Amy’s work demands spike.
My weekly 2-4 hours of volleyball is a haven for me- I can just concentrate on the game, get into a flow, get some good exercise, and enjoy the company of fun group of people who are not involved in the other aspects of my life. (On a side-note, I think it is healthy that Nick knows that, while I love him more than anything, he is not always the center of the universe)
Even with volleyball, I don’t exercise enough. My good metabolism (thank you, genetics!) and mostly good eating habits keep me thin, but I sometimes feel skinny-fat. I need to do more. I bet many of us are in the same boat.
Exercise relieves stress and gives us more energy for the rest of our lives. And it is the single best thing you can do for your health. Please take the 9 minutes to watch this amazing video:
For those who didn’t watch (tsk tsk… shame on you)- To sum it up, a few hours a week of moderate exercise lowered pain and disability among those with arthritis, slowed the progression of dementia among Alzheimer’s patients, reduced the progression of diabetes, led to fewer hip fractures, reduced anxiety and depression symptoms, and lowered blood pressure/hypertension. Lack of basic cardio fitness is the #1 predictor of death.
Beyond the big-picture health benefits, regular exercise gives us more energy for the rest of our lives- we can be more productive at work and more energetic and involved at home. Being in reasonable physical shape can help us to be better fathers, and can help ensure we’ll be around longer into our kids’ lives. And all it takes to get started is one-half hour a day, every other day.
Nick and I at the town pool- fun, male bonding, and exercise!
Now that it is summer, there’s less excuse for not taking bike rides and walks- even better do these things with your family and you can get exercise time and family time all in one. One of my favorite things in life is swimming at the town pool with Nick!
How do you feel about regular exercise? Any stories to share? What tips do you have for the rest of us? Let’s discuss in the comments section.